Flirting And Examples Of Flirtatious Behaviour /
There are many tell tale signs when it comes to flirting. It could be by mimicking the body language of the other person, holding a gaze slightly longer than you might ordinarily do or even a particular act such twirling their hair or blinking more often in conversation!
Flirting is the real fun part of dating. It can be a spontaneous natural act where if you may not realise you are doing it or it can be something you deliberately do in a conscious manner. Most of us do it at some time and it can be just harmless fun but whether we are any good at it is another matter!
You will also find that flirting can be very sexy and alluring. Most people like it as it will usually manifest itself by you receiving lots of attention, tactile behaviour and lots of smiling and laughter. The appropriate time and environment are important as you want to come across as playful, interested and flirty not as leach or unwanted gesture.
There are various visual signs of flirting behaviour which you will need to recognise if you don’t already. Any expert on body language will tell you that mirroring behaviour by one individual is a very strong indication that the other person is interested in you. Some of us do it subconsciously and human nature is to mimic anyway but when it is more pronounced and repetitive and retains eye contact throughout then there is more to it.
It’s in the Eyes /
As mentioned above eye contact is a very important part of flirting. Often there is dilation of the pupils and more a pronounced arching of the brow and REM (Rapid Eye Movement). Add to this blinking and winking more often then normal then this is a definite sign of flirting. Another example of a flirt is when the individual holds their gaze slightly longer than usual before looking away.
The Head /
Particularly in women the response of playing with their hair whilst in conversation can be a sign of flirting behaviour. Another general sign of flirtatious behavior is to smile lots and to lick your lips or to touch your teeth with your tongue. Obviously we mean in a seductive, subtle and sensual manner not like you’ve just seen something for dinner!
The Body /
Other aspects of flirting are more general body movements such as puffing out of the chest whilst maintaining eye contact, the mimicking behaviour as outlined above using your body, and pointing often done subtly using your legs crossed toward the person who is desired. Another more overt form of flirting is an open legged stance towards the other person (The scene from Basic Instinct would be a more extreme example of this!)
General Tactile Behaviour /
Typical flirtatious behaviour can include any reason to touch you even if it is just brushing your arm. The classic one over a meal is often to feed the other when sharing food. Any excuse touching the person whether using the hand or foot is often a flirting act.
Speech /
Similar to body language we often can mimic another person’s language and style of speaking. Exaggerated responses demonstrating real intensity of interest in the conversation, particularly if someone focuses solely on one person in a group environment. Cheekiness, giggling and inquisitive language are further examples of flirting.
However you decide to be a flirt or react to somebody flirting with you then just remember it’s meant to be fun!!So enjoy it and maybe you can be a better flirt!