Can You Be Too Available /

We all do it. Some of us without even realising. We meet someone and fall for them, and before we know it, we’re altering our own schedules to meet the demands of our new relationship.

It easily happens. It’s natural that when we meet someone we really like, we want to spend every waking moment with them. And why not? During the first couple of weeks, this can be a very good way to get to know someone quickly and forge a lasting relationship.

The only problem being, it can leave you “Too Available”. Let me explain. If we continue down this path of being available 24/7, it is possible that by being too available we cheapen our own attractiveness, we become far less rare, far more common and sadly far less desirable.

So what we need to do is train ourselves to be enigmatic and elusive and stop being so available. When you meet someone you like, by all means get started down the dating path but ensure that you keep to your own plans and commitments and don't be available every day. If you are free two nights in a week, one is for you, and the other is for your partner. If you are free Thursday and Friday for example, let them know which is better for you.

If they suggest Thursday, you suggest Friday. Avoid making contact so frequently, and don't always answer your phone the first time. Always make sure that when you do meet up, you can share information about plenty of other things you’ve done outside of the relationship.

All of this elusive behavior will eventually pay off, and the time you share together will be all the more special.