Asking Someone Out On a Date /

This is probably the most daunting task a man can be faced with. I say ‘man’ because lets face it, not many woman consider asking a guy out. But ladies, please, do not be put off from continuing to read this article. I will come to you in a minute.

So, daunting. Well it is. Whether it’s the fear of rejection, (we'll tackle this in the next article) the risk of embarrassment or because we spend so much time working up to it we work ourselves up into a frenzy, it is daunting.

What we need to remember is how we got into this situation in the first place. Normally their will have been signs, clues that we will have picked up along the way to let us know that the other party is in some way interested and we’re not completely going after a lost cause. We will also have been constantly analysing the situation to see if the feelings are reciprocated.

So here it is, rule number 1. Only ask a person out on a date if you feel like there is at least an outside chance that they may say yes. If you cannot at least visualise a positive outcome then I suggest reconsidering or at least waiting for the correct time.

Secondly, maybe the best way to learn what to do here, is more importantly what not to do. Never ever, under any circumstances ask the following question, “Will you go out with me?”. Not only was this phrase last used in the playground, but it leaves you WIDE open to rejection. It is all to easy for the other party to say no here or make up an excuse.

This is the opposite of what we want to achieve here. What we need to do is in a non-threatening way, establish whether or not they are available , or not, and then ascertain if they are free to meet up. It is far simpler to carry out this relaxed informal way of asking someone out on a date then blurting out an unnatural question.

As promised ladies, there is something for you here also. No matter what society has conditioned you to believe, do not be put off asking a man out. Men, by their nature are lazy beings, (in fact I can just about get the energy together to write this!), and so although they may have very strong feelings for you, they may just find it easier to bumble along as things are instead of putting any extra work in.

So sometimes it does come down to the woman here to be the bigger man and do the asking. The man will usually respond very well to this so don’t be afraid, go on, just ASK!