Playing It Cool But Not Too Cool /

The dating game is a hard one, it so hard when you like someone to not get fixated on them. This is a sure fire way to scare them off when you do not know each other properly. And can also come across as desperate. This is NOT the way you want to appear to a prospective date or someone you wish to keep seeing. It is also not the way to have your mind set for your simple sanity! Here are some tips and pointers to stay cool and keep your date:

You want to show the person you are interested in them but not come across too keen so try not to txt or call them every day after your first date. Send them the odd txt here and there to let them know you are thinking of them. After the first date it is sometimes nice if you enjoyed their company to send them a little txt just saying so. You want to be cool but not too cool. You need to let them know you like them if that is how you feel.

Keep your mind relaxed, don’t get carried away in your head that this person could be ‘the one’. Some people put so much pressure on a new relationship but expecting too much. My advice is that if it’s going to happen it will. You just need to keep a relaxed attitude. Don’t wait by your phone waiting for them to call or txt. This will drive you crazy.

Be natural. Let things progress naturally. If you are the right match things will go along just how you want it but if you’re not don’t force things with that person. You may have to admit that maybe this time the person isn’t quite right for you.

Don’t pressurise the person to make a commitment to you before they are ready. This will certainly drive them away.

When are you officially Girlfriend/Boyfriend? You might want to discuss this with your new date. But not too soon! I think maybe after you have been seeing each other for 3 weeks or so you can have this conversation with them. If you are already living in each other’s pocket within the first week of knowing each other you will probably talk about this sooner!

Don’t forget that if you really click with the person and think they feel the same way, you must let them know. Playing it too cool is not good enough. They may think you are not interested and find someone else. Then you will have lost your chance with them. So many people are put off by someone who tries too hard to not look interested.