How To Ask A Girl Out /

Sometimes you just have to accept that you might meet someone you want to get to know better but it’s the wrong time, like they’re just about to emigrate! Timing is really important when asking a girl out and that could be influenced by everything from what’s happening in your lives at the time to what environment you’ve approached her in.

Scenario 1 – In the bar, you’ve just laid eyes on her /

There’s no point in chatting up a girl who hasn’t given you any positive body language. As a girl myself, if I turn around to a tap on the shoulder from a guy I’ve never seen before and he’s grinning at me asking me if I want a drink I just want to run! You need to catch her eye a couple of times, give a little smile and wait for some positive response back. She will be more receptive to engaging in conversation then.

Scenario 2 – In the bar, you’ve made the decision to go over /

Pick your time, if she’s on her way to the ladies she probably needs to go! If a crowd of her mates have just turned up don’t interrupt their greetings, it’s rude! If another guy is chatting her up, don’t bowl in there – you don’t know who he is and it will seem bullish. Just wait for an appropriate opportunity and then don’t hesitate, or it might be too late!

Scenario 3 – You’ve chatted in passing a few times before and want to ask her out now /

If you know her well enough to chat to a bit then find out a bit more about where she is in her life in a friendly conversational way. You might find out she’s fresh out of a relationship or has just started seeing someone. If you do pick up that it’s not an appropriate time to ask her out just use the conversation as an opportunity to grow your friendship a bit and hopefully you’ll bump into her when the time is right!

Scenario 4 – The time is right to ask /

Don’t mess around, don’t justify yourself, don’t flap – Just confidently say you’d really like to get to know her better and ask if she would like to go out next week and what day would be good for her. Decide beforehand whether you think it appropriate to tell her where you’re taking her (eg; “I’d like to take you out for dinner”) or if she would like to be asked (eg; “Where would you like to go”).

Scenario 5 – She says ‘No’ /

Have pride, accept her answer and move on. If you stand around begging she’ll have even less respect for you and will never change her mind in the future!