Have a Crush On Someone /

We’ve all had crushes on someone; usually back in our school days, but infatuation still happens even when we’re grown up. How do you handle the situation when someone has a crush on you and you don’t have reciprocal feelings? Here are a few tips on what to do and how to act when you come across this uncomfortable situation.

Even if you don’t feel that someone is a compatible match to you and this person disagrees and thinks that he or she is the perfect match for you, it’s important that you try not to be horrible towards them. You will probably become frustrated with them for not understanding so it will be hard to stay calm.

When he/she soon realizes that you do not reciprocate the same feelings, then he/she will probably feel incredibly upset if their feelings are in fact that strong! It is the best thing to try and prevent anymore heartache for them by being nasty to them or putting them down. You don’t want to scar them for life. Although it is true you are not responsible for this persons feelings, it is nicer to avoid hurting them anymore.

If this person has not approached you yet about his or her feelings, but those feelings are still obvious to you it could be best to try to ignore any vibes you may be getting and act as platonically normal towards them as possible. The last thing you want to do is to lead this person on into thinking that you have feelings for him or her, when you’re only just trying to be nice. Being nice is good but make sure you don’t lose focus on the fact that you do not want to encourage your crushes’ infatuation with you.

If they do make a move to let their feelings towards you known, you need to move slowly and think about how you should react taking into account their feelings. Don’t forget they are a human being too. Hopefully they will not have declared their feelings for you in a public place where there are lots of people around because you don’t want to publicly embarrass him/ her when you express that you do not feel the same way.

Play it by ear because it all depends on how they person approach you. If the approach is done in public, try to move towards a less crowded part of the room or go outside, so that you allow this moment to be private.

When you break the news to him/her that there feelings are not receipted, they let know why you do not feel you are right for each other. Be honest, but not in brutality. You want to let them know that you think he or she is a nice person, but just not the right one for you.

This admission will be painful for him/her but it’s best to be honest and let them know that he or she does not have a future with you. Don’t get so caught up in the flattery of the infatuation and lead them on. This would be mean to do so and you could find yourself in a very uncomfortable situation.